Do you considered uniqueness a desirable trait? Something you should be rocking out on a regular basis?
You know what I mean: I’m talking about that special little thing that makes you stand out — it makes you different from everyone else. It might be in how you present your perspective. Or maybe a hint of spice in your personality that pops out in social gatherings. Maybe it’s a special gift…or talent…or ability…or topic you’re passionate about.
Oh, I sincerely hope you know you are unique. Because embracing your uniqueness is so important in walking with purpose. It’s imperative in shaking off the overwhelm and living true to your God-given design.
But I’m getting ahead of myself. Because maybe — just maybe — you’re on the other side of the fence…
Maybe you don’t like the idea of being “something special.” Or the act of standing out scares you. After all, you just want to fit in, be accepted and loved.
Maybe that’s because your desire to be unique was crushed years ago. It could have been a one-time event. Or maybe something someone spoke over you again and again… Maybe where you grew up, uniqueness was a bad thing. Whatever it is, somehow, someway you simply don’t believe you are unique.
At least…not in a good way.
I’ve struggled with this topic for longer than I care to admit. I’ve always know I was different, but I thought it was in all the wrong ways (check out this previous post). That somehow I was broken and parts of me were missing. And I had no idea how to fix it.
I couldn’t have been more wrong.
First, let’s talk about your uniqueness.
Did you know God planned this? Oh yes, eons before you were born he this in mind. He knew how your very being was going to be put together. He knew every cell in your body, every hair on your head, every day you would live. That includes every personality trait you have, every emotion, every thought.
How do we know this? Well, like how John Piper say, “Let’s put some Bible under it.” Check this out:
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. (Psalm 139:13-16 ESV)
Now, don’t mentally tune out here. Because if you’re like me, you’ve read this scripture a hundred times. Here’s what you need to connect with: God knows the author so fully not just because God knows everything — but because God made him.
Let that sink in and become personal: you were make specially by God Himself. It’s not just a coincidence. Oh no, it is intentional. If you don’t believe that deep down, you need to start. The Bible wasn’t written for “everyone else” – it was written for you too, my friend.
So what makes you so special?
Oh friend, so many things… What are you crazy good at, big or small? What are you passionate about? Or that thing that drives you? Are you organized or messy? Patient or impulsive? Introspective or spontaneous? Is there something quirky or weird or strange about your personality? All of these things speak of your uniqueness, wrapped up in the one-in-seven-billion package of you.
Don’t just take my word for it. Remember, God says you are beloved (Colossians 3:12) and His workmanship (Epesians 2:10). Paul also acknowledges we all have different gifts and talents (Romans 12:6).
There is no shame in being unique. There is no guilt. No fear. You can be confident in your unique design. Because you have a purpose in this world.
Let’s take it a step further — and do some uniqueness homework.
Yes, I just decided to give you homework. You can hate me later. Frankly, if you struggle with seeing your uniqueness as a good thing — or you don’t know what your unique traits/abilities are — it’s worth taking the time to retrain your brain.
This part is fun: take a few minutes and write down 10 personally quirks about yourself. What is weird, funny or strange about you? Yes, even those things you don’t think are good traits. Write them down.
The next part is a bit harder: I want you to write out at least 10 gifts or talents you have. That’s right, 10. It might be hard; most of us aren’t used to thinking this way. We need to practice. So start retraining your brain to recognize the things you’re good at, not focusing on your weaknesses.
Remember, God gave you those gifts as strengths — so you can start putting them to work. But first, you have to accept your uniqueness. Don’t fight it, don’t rationalize it away. God created you in his image; trust that he knew what he was doing when he made you.